Creating the “Win-Win”

Counselors know the only sure way for most alcoholics to avoid more alcohol-related problems is to stop drinking and stay stopped. Yet for the alcoholic, it’s an insight that’s slow to come. And until it does, the drinker may actively fight change.

Yet even the most recalcitrant drinker can appreciate the desirability of avoiding still more consequences. It’s a side door around some of the alcoholic’s denial. You’re not forced to confront his heavily defended need for control – instead, you’re simply pointing out a motive for change.

It’s a useful motivator when others fail: