Self-Diagnosis
Most of the time, there’s an extended period in which the drinker is engaged in something called ‘comparing out’. That's when they're focused on what isn't wrong with their drinking, and ignoring or minimizing what is.
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It’s not called “a family disease” for nothing. Addiction affects everyone in the family- and everyone’s recovery matters.
by C. Scott McMillin | Mar 2, 2023 | Families | 0 |
Most of the time, there’s an extended period in which the drinker is engaged in something called ‘comparing out’. That's when they're focused on what isn't wrong with their drinking, and ignoring or minimizing what is.
by C. Scott McMillin | Dec 26, 2022 | Families | 0 |
by C. Scott McMillin | Mar 10, 2022 | Addictive Substances, Families | 0 |
by C. Scott McMillin | Feb 10, 2022 | Families | 0 |
by C. Scott McMillin | Jan 6, 2022 | Addiction, Families, In the News | 0 |
by C. Scott McMillin | Dec 23, 2021 | Families | 0 |
by C. Scott McMillin | Nov 4, 2021 | Families | 0 |
Because then they’re someone else’s problem to deal with, for a while at least.
Read Moreby C. Scott McMillin | May 17, 2021 | Families | 0 |
I happened to stumble across an advice column in one of the national newspapers. It dealt with a...
Read Moreby C. Scott McMillin | Jan 28, 2021 | Families | 0 |
Every time I run into a case like this, the drinker winds up his presentation by asking if he needs professional help. So far, I’ve yet to say no.
Read Moreby C. Scott McMillin | Nov 19, 2020 | Families | 0 |
…the more hierarchical the workplace– military, police and fire departments, certain bureaucracies, for instance– the more likely it is that such behaviors will be protected.
Read Moreby C. Scott McMillin | Oct 1, 2020 | Families, Recovery | 0 |
I remember one expert’s claim that it wasn’t unusual for someone to require seven treatment episodes to establish a stable recovery.
Read Moreby C. Scott McMillin | Aug 6, 2020 | Addiction, Families | 0 |
Daily life becomes a battle zone; the more folks press for change, the more the drinker retreats into isolation, aided by the bottle.
Read Moreby C. Scott McMillin | Jan 30, 2020 | Addiction Clinicians, Families | 0 |
Avoid accusations, threats, self-pity, bringing up old resentments, etc.
Read Moreby C. Scott McMillin | Jan 23, 2020 | Addiction Clinicians, Families | 0 |
The more you practice consciously lowering your emotional temp, the easier it will be to do the same in a difficult situation.
Read Moreby C. Scott McMillin | Jan 16, 2020 | Addiction Clinicians, Families | 0 |
If during the course of a difficult discussion, the conversation happens to touch on any of those areas, expect to react emotionally.
Read Moreby C. Scott McMillin | Jan 9, 2020 | Addiction Clinicians, Families | 0 |
Arguing activates people’s natural defenses and brings communication to a halt.
Read Moreby C. Scott McMillin | Dec 26, 2019 | Families, Prevention | 0 |
Avoid arguments about the fairness/unfairness of our drug laws. They’ve never made much sense, and they distract from the real issues.
Read Moreby C. Scott McMillin | Aug 29, 2019 | Families, People in Recovery | 0 |
Stress builds up beneath your awareness. Then it passes a certain level and suddenly, you’re really aware of it.
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