Topic: defense mechanisms
Clearly, these folks don’t experience shame in the way society expects. It’s why they arrive in treatment angry and defensive.
There are folks who make the rounds, getting the same advice over and over, and never putting it into action.
Here was a physician who regularly committed an assortment of crimes without considering himself a criminal. To his way of thinking, he was the victim.
It seems to me that it’s entirely possible for one person to be lying, ambivalent, and in denial at the same time.
Addiction programs, conversely, targeted elimination or at least substantial reduction in substance use– a narrower goal that permitted greater focus in treatment.
Families often think it’s the addict or alcoholic’s emotions that need to be overcome to succeed. But in fact, we need to start by dealing with our own feelings.
They believe that by demonstrating you can’t make them do anything against their will, they’ll convince you that confrontation is useless.