Topic: defense mechanisms
It seems to me that it’s entirely possible for one person to be lying, ambivalent, and in denial at the same time.
Addiction programs, conversely, targeted elimination or at least substantial reduction in substance use– a narrower goal that permitted greater focus in treatment.
Families often think it’s the addict or alcoholic’s emotions that need to be overcome to succeed. But in fact, we need to start by dealing with our own feelings.
They believe that by demonstrating you can’t make them do anything against their will, they’ll convince you that confrontation is useless.
We’ll see the progress that was occurring even when the addict appeared, at the time, to be floundering badly.
The same people whose “enabling” actions allow the disease to flourish— and who may feel helpless to confront it— are the ones who can be most effective as interveners.
It’s often difficult for family members to see the real extent and nature of the damage addiction has caused to themselves and the family.