Topic: Intervention Series
The terms of agreement that emerge from an intervention must be the right terms, likely to result in success and amenable to all parties.
Families often think it’s the addict or alcoholic’s emotions that need to be overcome to succeed. But in fact, we need to start by dealing with our own feelings.
They believe that by demonstrating you can’t make them do anything against their will, they’ll convince you that confrontation is useless.
The behaviors of alcoholics and addicts are so predictable because the disease follows a certain progression.
Intervention is about achieving a very specific time-limited objective: an addict or alcoholic who agrees to participate in treatment.
The addict may have tried to control drinking or drug use many times, and failed. This experience leads him to conclude that he can’t change.
It’s an essential truth that alcoholics think about changing for a long, long time before they seriously attempt it. They’re ambivalent about change, and struggle to make up their minds.
The way the “interven-ee” feels about the intervention changes a lot, from the beginning of the intervention, by the end of the intervention, during treatment and after, and years into recovery.
If we do nothing, the alcoholic will probably wind up, at some point in the progression of addiction, in exactly the circumstances we fear.