Weary looking young man lies on sofa extending a remote control.Our son just turned 26. About a year ago he went on Suboxone maintenance following an arrest for possession. He had a problem with Vicodin since his late teens, although we didn’t know it. He gets the medication and is tested every so often. No counseling. He’s still drinking, more than before. He moved back into our basement and doesn’t do much of anything but lay around and play video games. We try to encourage him but it doesn’t work. Is this typical? Could we try something else?”

I don’t know if it’s typical, but you’re far from the first case I’ve run across. Look at it as a problem of motivation. He sought help in the first place to avoid a consequence of his drug use. Once he was on the medication, the consequence faded, taking his motivation with it. What you see is what’s left.

Maybe you expected your son to learn a valuable life lesson from his experience, but he didn’t. Instead of becoming inspired to turn his life around, he seems to have figured, “OK, crisis averted. Let’s go get a beer.”

Just IMO, this is what sometimes happens when we rely too much on medication and neglect behavior and attitude change. Really, how different is your son’s life from a year ago? In some ways, he’s a lot better off; in others, maybe not.

Consider some type of family intervention, designed to get your son out of his rut. My guess would be he isn’t any happier about the current situation than you are. See an intervention specialist for a second opinion. I wouldn’t count on him ‘seeing the light’ on his own.


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