Comparing Out vs. Comparing In

December 3, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Beginning your statement with ‘yes, but’ means you’re already arguing. And rest assured, the alcoholic person is well prepared for argument.

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Defense: Fantasy

November 6, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Eventually, the fantasy bubble gets popped, and the addict realizes they’ve wasted a lot of time when they could have been making progress.

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Defense: Minimizing

November 3, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Eventually, things get so bad that even the minimizer gets frightened.

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Defense: Externalization

November 2, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Eventually, through painful experience, the externalizer recognizes that the secret of recovery is focusing on changing yourself, not others.

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Defense: Rationalization

November 1, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Eventually, the rationalizer (through painful experience) realizes that instead of serving as a remedy, drugs and alcohol are actually making problems worse

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Defense: Intellectualizing

October 16, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Eventually, things get so bad that the details become irrelevant and the objections seem unimportant.

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Is there an “alcoholic/addictive” personality?

May 29, 2012 by Cecile

Suffering victim and destructive asshole, all wound up in the same person. That’s the “alcoholic/addictive” personality. But who is the “real person” underneath the disease?

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The Defenses We’ll Face

March 25, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

We’re all familiar with the behaviors of alcoholic and addicted people, now it’s time to use our knowledge to plan a successful intervention.

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The Alcoholic Person’s Friend

March 23, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

We can’t expect to address alcoholism without encountering defenses, since they exist to protect alcoholic drinking. But we have an advantage.

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Countering Denial

March 22, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

When we think of denial, we picture someone angrily insisting he doesn’t have a problem. But denial is more subtle than that.

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