Topic: family dysfunction
Partners of addicted people may have difficulty leaving or setting boundaries because they do not wish to be rejected or hated by their partner.
It’s sometimes said that the justified ones are by far the most dangerous. They’re the most difficult to let go of, and the most likely to develop into an obsession.
Our healthcare system supports more and in some cases better treatment based on the ability to pay for it.
It’s difficult, perhaps impossible, for them to fully separate the behavior from the person. So in recovery, they may cling to resentments from the distant past.
It might be a friend, or a colleague. Maybe an ex, or a sort-of relationship. Might be a relative who doesn’t live with you. In any case, their problems are draining YOU of energy and time, and the stress is mounting. It’s a toxic relationship.
All successful negotiations depend on two outcomes, whether you’re dealing with your 15 year old, or mediating a border dispute in the Middle East.
Fifteen-year-old Andrea is out of control. She drinks, abuses drugs, and dances illegally at a strip club. What can Mom do about it? The answer is surprising.
Always good to collect opinions from others. But when you feel you’ve talked to enough people, try applying ‘impact analysis’ to the issue.
Anybody who lives or works with an active alcoholic is likely to hear a lot of excuses, along with protests that they are not, in fact, excuses.
The family is operating under the misconception that folks in their town don’t know, when they already do.