Topic: co dependency
It’s difficult, perhaps impossible, for them to fully separate the behavior from the person. So in recovery, they may cling to resentments from the distant past.
Their targets often know or strongly suspect they’re being manipulated, but give in anyway because they can’t figure out how to avoid it.
They don’t realize how effectively their actions are undermining their own goal: getting the addict into treatment.
The idea was that the drinker would admit his sins, beg forgiveness, accept punishment, and promise to abstain from that point on.
If we do nothing, the alcoholic will probably wind up, at some point in the progression of addiction, in exactly the circumstances we fear.
It might be a friend, or a colleague. Maybe an ex, or a sort-of relationship. Might be a relative who doesn’t live with you. In any case, their problems are draining YOU of energy and time, and the stress is mounting. It’s a toxic relationship.