Partners of addicted people may have difficulty leaving or setting boundaries because they do not wish to be rejected or hated by their partner.
Topics: co dependency, Family 12-Step, family dysfunction
It’s difficult, perhaps impossible, for them to fully separate the behavior from the person. So in recovery, they may cling to resentments from the distant past.
Topics: co dependency, family, family dysfunction, maintaining sobriety
Their targets often know or strongly suspect they’re being manipulated, but give in anyway because they can’t figure out how to avoid it.
Topics: co dependency, enabling and provoking, resistance manipulation ambivalence
It makes us uncomfortable to acknowledge that degree of helplessness.
Topics: co dependency, disease, relapse, treatment
They don’t realize how effectively their actions are undermining their own goal: getting the addict into treatment.
Topics: co dependency, enabling and provoking, family, intervention
The idea was that the drinker would admit his sins, beg forgiveness, accept punishment, and promise to abstain from that point on.
Topics: co dependency, models of addiction, policy
If we have been or are in the addict’s path, we have dealt with having to compromise.
Topics: co dependency, communication, family
Too often our own hopes, dreams, and aspirations have been shunted aside.
Topics: co dependency, family, family involvement, maintaining sobriety, treatment
Simple truth: Nobody can watch over another human being 100% of the time.
Topics: co dependency, communication, getting help, parent child conflict
If we do nothing, the alcoholic will probably wind up, at some point in the progression of addiction, in exactly the circumstances we fear.
Topics: co dependency, intervention, Intervention Series