How to Talk so Someone With Addiction Will Listen (families)
Help for families struggling with an addiction problem
Useful stories and common sense answers to your questions about addiction, treatment, and recovery from Scott McMillin, co-author of “Freeing Someone You Love from Alcohol and Other Drugs” and six other popular addiction books.
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Suddenly we’re missing obvious warning signs, ignoring key markers of danger, or simply deciding to take a leap of faith at exactly the wrong moment.
Nonetheless, years of drinking and drugging and lapsing and relapsing will invariably have an effect on the victim of addiction.
Topics: maintaining sobriety
It can be flagrant or subtle, but damage it will be. Sadly, the drinker is usually the last one to become aware of it. In fact, many never do.
You may have unintentionally established a pattern of saying things you didn’t really mean, or making promises you didn’t keep, or threatening consequences that never came to pass.
It is not always about having the right words to say, but asking the right questions and giving the space to answer with vulnerability.
I must take responsibility for the ways I acted and the things I did. Then, I must ask if there is anything I can do to make these mistakes right.
Now we carry 24 hour access to crap in our pockets, via the phone. And rather than a couple irritating broadcasters, we have access to millions.
There will be times where you catch yourself lying either in your head or to somebody– fix it, there is major growth there when you do.
…there’s general agreement that the experience of being raised in a home with a troubled parent can and does have adverse impact on adult behavior